Saturday, February 17, 2018


Sympathy Based Trauma

Sympathy based trauma is when the family or community knows about the event.  People respond with money, support, cards of sympathy or the government sends in counselors.  The traumatic event may include regional, state or national media. Often SBT may generate generous donations from the public and qualify for state or federal aid.  The point is, the crisis isn't prevented but the support from others allows the best chance for the victim to heal.  Sympathy based trauma includes house fires, natural disasters, school shootings, car accidents, death from natural causes.

Shame-Secret Trauma

Shame-secret trauma is a traumatic event the child is forced to keep secret.  It is a crisis or violation of a child  they are forced to keep secret during their development years.

SST may be driven by blame, instilled shame, threats and backed up by physical injury but whatever method, the child keeps the secret.   Sadly, the child is a victim of a crime but the too young to know the difference.  Crimes range from child abuse to violent child sexual abuse-torture.  These include beatings, torture, rape, incest and a wide variety of other hurtful behaviors.

Families may want to cover up embarrassing facts so they label the event a private family matter.  All this does is confuse the child.  Stranger or non-kin perpetrators use many methods to keep the child silent.

There is period of time when a child can bring forth a secret and heal from it quite quickly.  The longer the child is forced to keep secret without sharing,  the more damage it does to the child's ability to think and reason.

Shame-Secret Sexual Trauma

Shame-secret sexual trauma (SSST) may be limited to grooming and manipulation with sexual contact.  SSST may include physical and mental violence of varying degrees combined with sexual abuse - torture of varying degrees.  The victim is forced to keep their sexual abuse/trauma secret.


ad·dict (ə-dĭkt')   n. (ăd'ĭkt)

To cause to become physiologically or psychologically dependent on a habit-forming substance: The thief was addicted to cocaine.

To occupy (oneself) with or involve (oneself) in something habitually or compulsively.


addic·tion (ə-dĭk'shən)  n.

Compulsive physio-logical and psychological need for a habit-forming substance: a drug used in the treatment of heroin addiction.

·includes addictive behavior such as shoplifting and compulsive gambling

·includes anorexia and other food disorders

·many forms of addiction develop to soothe depression and anxiety of early child abuse

·includes "ritual" addictions, such as the purchase of cigarettes, that will cause a person to salivate in anticipation and is every bit addictive as tobacco.

·includes people with multiple chemical addictions

·includes major addiction such as drugs to minor addiction of a single piece of candy every night at 7 PM.

Chi-ult or Chiult

Noun. American 2003  or Chee-ult

The combination of "Child" and "Adult" to form Chi-ult

A traumatized child who physically reaches adulthood but remains locked at the emotional age when their trauma took place.

·Emotionally frozen in time due to keeping their trauma secret

·Unable to move emotionally past childhood pain.

·Reversible when the secrets that hold them prisoner are revealed; healing can then take place.

Chi-ult was created at Private Family Matter to describe in simple terms why adults continue to manage their life at a child's emotional level. Repeat offenders are an example of a chi-ult.  They continually repeat the same actions but somehow expect a different outcome. Most often, "chi-ults" are moved to behave in an addictive pattern, used to soothe a wounded inner child.

Ritual Abuse Torture

"Ritual abuse-torture is intentionally planned and organized kin and/or non-kin brutal group ritualisms; acts of human evil that terrify and horrify; acts of pedophilic, physical, sexualized, and mind-spirit tortures; acts that can include modern day slavery (pornography, trafficking, sexualized and labour-intensive exploitation); acts that cause life-threatening torment; acts that distorts beliefs and values, thoughts, emotions, perceptions, behaviours, and world-view of the victimized person; dehumanizing and despiritualizing acts that have the capacity to destroy the personality of the infant, toddler, child, youth or “captive” adult victim; a co-culture that can be inter-connected regionally, nationality, internationally, and transnationally; and criminal acts that are a violation of the victimized person's human rights."  Definition from the website:


Word invented by Dr. Lonnie H. Athens, author of  “The Creation of Dangerous Violent Criminals”  by combining the words "violent" with "socialization" that describes a 4 stage process which creates violent criminals, murderers and serial killers.

Violentization Process

Violentization is a 4 stage programming process to mold a child or young person into a dangerous violent criminal capable of extreme and brutal violence, including murder, over a mild or perceived slight.  Once all 4 stages are completed the damage is irreversible.

Sexual Violentization Process

The author of this website explored the possibility of a 5-stage  "sexual violentization progress" that adds sexual abuse-torture to physical and mental abuse-torture. The result of this training may create a violent sexual predator or rapist, serial rapist, sadist, sexual deviant and many other outward acts of perversion and cruelty, by subjecting a child to targeted, methodical and repetitive mental and physical sexual abuse-torture.

Response to  Child Trauma

Every child, every person responds to fear and terror, sexual abuse, beatings and torture, in ways unique to their age and understanding, body strength and development and the degree of pain and suffering they experience.  In addition, they may endure torture that would generally kill a child however some survive without apparent total destruction.  The mystery of why some survive and others don't is one of life's mysteries. For all others who survive, there is as wide a range of responses as there are people.

Track 1

A child will respond to trauma in one of two ways.  Track 1 is the result of trauma that implants fear, helplessness, hopelessness, despair.  The child is trapped, sees no way out. They accept this abuse as their lot in life, especially if a loved one is setting the adult example.  Eventually they seek relief from the fear and shame by turning their rage inward into self-destructive acts.  Snuffing, puffing and huffing, puffing and  Attempts at suicide or completion of the act is one response.  A suicide victim is an example of this track.

Track 2

Track 2 is the result of brutality level and other violent training techniques that force a child to be aggressive through rewards and harsh punishments for failure to comply.  It is important for the child to shut out their own feelings of pain, along with sympathy for their victim. Methods of harm include turning the child's rage outward to harm others.  Bullies are created using some of these techniques, and may exhibit behaviors that include harming animals, setting fires and destroying property are examples of turning rage outward aggression.  The pattern that develops is up to the trainer.

Track 3

Sexually submissive children have been trained not to fight the inevitable, that resistance may mean the level of pain inflicted will exceed their tolerance.  So they comply, silently, looking for acceptance and love, in giving over their choice in the matter to others.

Track 4

Sexually aggressive children, may hear repeated stories glorifying sexual dominance, tales of rapes and sexual aggression, and may be rewarded for sexual aggression, deviate behaviors and brutality.  The child responds to what training they receive.

Dual Abuse or Dual Trauma

Includes physical child abuse and/or child sexual abuse, between the ages of birth and 13 years old, which remains secret.  Add to this relationship abuse of teen or young adult, bullying experiences over which they are powerless, or any other combination of life's trauma (see spread sheet continuum's) Add to this any military deployment to a war zone; combat; prisoner of war status, captive/restrained experiences or incidences that produce intense fear, terror or worry.  Unhealed secret trauma reduces or destroys the ability of the person to manage additional life stress.

Surgery Addict

A person who continues to seek surgery to correct perceived imperfections in order to become "perfect" in the eyes of self.  Like bulimia and anorexia, perfection is unobtainable.

Bulimia & Anorexia

Eating disorders that lead to malnutrition, starvation and death.  As difficult to treat as any other addiction.

Smoking Addiction

The ritual behind smoking is as addictive as nicotine.  First you plan ahead so you don't run out.  Think about how many you have left and how soon you need to buy a pack of cigarettes.  Then then think about the store which sells them.  Get in your car and drive there.  Opening the pack of cigarettes is a ritual too.  Find the cellophane tab, pull it open, open the inside metal folds, Snap the pack sharply to loosen one, pull out a cigarette, smell the fresh tobacco, put the filter end to your lips, (great anticipation), check to make sure you don't light the filter and hopefully you have remembered the light! or heaven forbid you will drive like a maniac to find one!  Breaking the tobacco habit should include changing the ritual purchase.  Try a different method of tobacco satisfaction i.e., patches, gum, tobacco pouches, chew (for short term) and alter the delivery method if possible.

Food Addiction

How can you control food addiction when you must ingest small quantities of what you are addicted to?  It is like asking a heroine addict to just take a small amount of drug everyday but not over indulge.  A very, very difficult addiction to control.  I like the approach of   who focuses on what their body is telling them.  It may help some folks with this addiction.

Alcohol Addiction (Alcoholism)

Children born to a mother who used alcohol during pregnancy are far more susceptible to addiction.  A person who was given alcohol based products in their baby bottle, such as alcohol laced cough syrup, will be more susceptible to addiction later in life.  They build a tolerance as a toddler so it takes more to get them high as they grow older.

Drugs and Addiction

Prescription drugs are dangerous.  Just because a doctor prescribes them doesn't mean they understand your addictive history.  And if you are an addict, you will not tell the truth. Pedophiles give children addictive substances to loosen them up, make them feel uninhibited and drugs also blur memory.  Early drug use in an undeveloped central nervous system sets the stage for addition.

Healing  From Child Traumas

Healing is difficult because the very first step must be to relive the experience and allow the suppressed pain to surface and flow out of the body and mind.  People/victims resist.  They do not want to relive something so painful, terrifying, injurious, that they have spent decades trying to suppress just to eventually let is all out.  Second is to take the power away from the addictive substance or behavior, by telling someone what happened.  Secrets only hold power as long as you remain silent.  Truth sets you on the path to healing.   It may be a long journey, maybe for the rest of your life, but to set on this road allows you to be human and enjoy the gifts of human emotions.

Allowing truth to surface is the first step in healing.  Feeling the pain, reliving the past on a more mature level


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