Teasing in a seemingly lighthearted or fun manner but that is hurtful to the recipient. Hurtful teasing that stings but is made to seem like a harmless joke.

• "You have the great sense of humor of all fat kids."
• All the "just kidding" comments said following truly hurtful words.
• Flippant comments: "You are much better off now that your dead beat dad is gone."
• Any funny words that hurt deeply.
• Humor that hurts.
• Wounds to a child's soul.
• Meanness not disguised as person is frowning.
• Meanness is disguised because person is smiling.
• Repeatedly telling stories that embarrass the child. (Where and when the child wet their pants.)

The judgment of whether or not something is classified as Happy Meanness rests not on the giver but on the target.